“Just a parched wasteland of lots of friends”
In which the Throbbers venture into the world of Love Languages. Who likes quality time? Who likes being touched? Who likes quality time being touched? Find out more!
Lucy isn’t Astral Projecting!!!!!
Love References
Discover your Love Languages!!!
The Throbbers all took this quiz and you can find out which Throbber you identify with most! If we got it from The Bachelorette it must be legit.
It’s not just about romantic love but also platonic and familial love. We try and break them down… sort of… (We aren’t a research podcast). 12 is the highest you can get in any category and it’s not an exclusive rating system. Support team #kaisie !
Sissel – Acts of Service & Quality Time | Words of Affirmation
Maisie – Quality Time | Physical Touch
Kelly – Quality Time | Physical Touch
Lucy – Quality Time | Words of Affirmation
Gina – Acts of Service | Physical Touch & Quality Time
Hannah – Acts of Service | Physical Touch & Words of Affirmation
Then we just dissected the crap out of how we feel about all these different languages. Analyzing how our pasts and different relationships have impacted how we feel about them.
We graze past the concept of consent. Everyone has different thresholds for interactions and it’s important to ask before you engage with someone… *cough* Gina *cough* you can’t just hug people. We discuss how our different levels have impacted our friendships and how we interact physically with each other. We also discuss American touch culture, and how it compares to our interactions in Spain and Japan. How do you determine the motivation behind your desire for physical touch? Is it touch starvation? Is it horniness? How do they differ?
Touch Starvation
Have you ever been in loved? (lol)
We discussed being loved and loving in a romantic way… but not necessarily marriage.
This part is hard… Talking about love is hard. Hit you like a ton of bricks, falling in love like falling asleep, wouldn’t wish it on your worst enemy kind of love.
We discuss the validity of crushes as an emotional experience. How it’s fun and can be the preamble to a good thing! Or a many-year-long crushing experience. Does it need to be reciprocal to count as real love?
We discuss how the media represents love and how that meshes with our interpretation of love. Should the love interest be vacuuming the whole time? Would that make a better movie?
Maybe you need a farmer in your life to be in love? Try Farmer’s Only!
We don’t endorse engaging in a relationship with a minor… This should be obvious but just writing it down here.
Lucy spends some time thinking about how she would like to give more complimentary affirmation in her relationships. Sissel recommends complimenting dudes shoes… this could be bad advice.
Learning to embrace compliments is something all the Throbbers are actively seeking and so should you!!!! But we also discuss how our relationship with men in this society is impacted by compliments, and how you can use them as a way to weed out men who aren’t up to snuff.
We ponder how inevitable life long partnerships actually are, and we respond emotionally to that possibility. Does being single forever sound appealing? Does it sound sad? Is there a better way? How does the fact that none of us are children of divorce impact our expectations? Does wanting children impact our search for love?
Thank You For Listening!
We are all able-bodied, cisgendered white women. We know our background and experiences only cover a percentage of those around us which is why we want to supplement this with guest speakers, research, and you. If you have opinions and experiences you’d like to share we would love to hear it! If, however, you just want to spew hate at us then we can’t stop you but instead we invite you to suck our collective clitorises. Hater. This podcast also contains mature sexual themes and swearing. No, clitoris isn’t a swear word.
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