“Yes, I orgasmed, otherwise I don’t think I would have been able to forget the election.”
In which the Throbbers investigate the breaking news of Gina touching…someone. Listen as we revel in Gina’s safe sexual experience in the wake of Covid and talk about our feelings regarding sex in the time of a virus. Spoiler: We horny!
Important note: We recorded this episode in early November of 2020, before vaccines were widely available. Obviously a lot has changed since then, so take all our ramblings with a grain of salt. (See below for updated CDC guidelines.)
Sexy Show Notes
We begin this thrilling Quickie with some incredibly awkward Zoom intros but also some grand news! Gina has FINALLY gotten laid in the Plague!
She suspects it might be the second time she has intentionally touched someone during the pandemic as well. It’s been rough, we’re starved for affection. Hannah straight up asked for a group hug!
Where to begin…
Gina did have a good time, but she also definitely wasn’t totally prepared for her response to significant human contact. She did obsess a bit about the whole experience. But come on, she’d only hugged one other person one on one and then a group hug! She was completely touch starved!
She had been seeing him on a socially distant basis but also had shared air space, and felt comfortable exchanging the tools to contract trace each other and thus begin the new social paradigm of confirming nobody has Covid! This also did not prepare her for how little she remembered how to do any of the sex things. How does someone… make out?
Sissel really wanted to know the logistics of how things BEGAN. Apparently Gina has a wrist grab she does that really initiates the sex. Things began very raw and animalistic way, she wanted to touch everything and be touched everywhere. She felt very clumsy in her movements, and the guy did not. He apparently had had another Covid fling for practice.
How Different Was It From Any First Time?
Gina felt like Covid bled into every pore of this experience. Having someone in her space that was unmasked felt very weird. He also spent the night, which is unusual for Gina’s sexscapades. She also christened her new apartment, new guy, new apartment, and new mattress!
Will She Do It Again?
Gina is unsure how interested the guy is in a round 2. She was annoyed by his non-committal response to what he might be doing the coming week. Plus when she had sex with this guy, it was the weekend before the 2020 election… Which I don’t know if any of you remember it, but it was a very tense week.
She had a different experience with this guy because she did have multiple dates with him that weren’t sexual or even included touch. She did develop some emotional bonding due to the six dates they’d gone on previously and she’s really having to work at dissecting her real feelings for the dude from general desperation for human contact…
So will she seem him again? Maybe!
Did Gina Experience Touch Revulsion?
If you’ve been listening, in earlier episodes (3…2…1…Covid!), Gina talked about being scared of human contact. Apparently it had worn off and she did not feel disgusted by being touch or touching someone else. It was a heavy shield to carry and she is glad to be free of it. But also, the shield was good and necessary for a while.
How To Handle Talking About Taking it Casual
Gina feels very unconcerned about this guy being more interested in her than she is him. She is somewhat concerned about how she’s going to react to her small interactions with this guy. The looming election is very concerning so it’s easier to react and care about the small insignificant interactions with this guy.
The sex really did take her mind off things. A few hours of calm.
Did Gina Orgasm?
Gina had one small orgasm. He was inside her, and they started with her on bottom and flipped to him on top and then she came! She got a bit greedy for more orgasms, so pulled out a vibe because he was a bit too large and she was sore. So he played with her body while she used an external vibrator and voila! Another orgasm! Thank goodness, or she wouldn’t have been able to forget the election.
What Was Her Favorite Move?
He did a really great nipple flick, apparently. It’s very difficult to describe with words. Sissel is taking notes and asking lots of important follow up questions. It was a soft breast touch combined with a twitch of a thumb across the nipple. We discuss the specific Flick of the Wrist.
This just reminds Hannah of the lyrics “With a flick of the wrist in just a flash” from Shrek 2’s The Fairy Godmother Song.
How Will She Keep Communicating Going Forward?
Gina thinks it’s very important for her to be very open about where she’s going and who she’s seeing. The guy also seems to be fairly comfortable with this plan. They’re contact tracing informally as openly as possible. It’s like a more extreme STI debrief. It’s all a bit nerve wracking and another thing to keep track of but it’s important to Gina.
Why is this worth all the trouble? (Some of the Throbbers with a less intense libido may be asking.) Gina says that having sex is an important part of her self care routine. Like face masks and baths, only with more penis.
Gina and Exclusivity?
Gina hasn’t talked about it with him, but she doesn’t want him to be seeing other people while seeing her because it’s a fucking BIOHAZARD right now! It’s an airborne disease, you can’t use condoms to keep it away. She does not feel nervous about having the conversation but isn’t something she usually has to do.
She rarely “cross pollinates” but now she really feels like she can’t.
Covid opens up more avenues for people to communicate and be transparent about your sexual partners. The stakes are just higher now if you don’t.
CDC Guidelines
We recorded this episode in November of 2020. Covid-19 Guidelines have changed since then. Here are some hopefully helpful and relevant links to help learn the guidelines (Gina did not follow but did so knowingly and with many precautions).
Mayo Clinic Covid-19 Transmission During Sex
Listen to the CDC… Don’t follow our example. We’re often dumb.
Gina Turns the Tables!
Gina wants to know what Lucy does/feels because she works in a customer service facing role. She is somewhat required to maintain a bubble in her household (outside of work). Lucy and Maisie’s work, both customer-facing, are also very concerned with people who are sick staying home.
Sissel cited an old NPR interview discussing the contagiousness of the virus within a household (she could not find that interview in time for these notes, so take it with a grain of salt). There is a 50% chance you’ll contract Covid-19 from someone you live with. Which is less of a risk than we all thought.
Lucy has been taking some very significant precautions by washing all her clothes and showering after coming home from work. She feels selfish when she wants to see her family because it is taking a risk, she is expanding her bubbles, and she is exposing people to different people.
Gina points out that her biggest thing is the disclosure. Communicating where you are and what you’re doing that is putting yourself and others at risk. She was happy to be complimented by her sex partner for being responsible, and probably having responsible friends. (Yeah, we’re pretty awesome.)
But Seriously… Follow CDC Guidelines!
Not just Covid-19 Guidelines but general safe sex practices!
You can definitely ask to see their STI test results for confirmation. (Don’t hack their MyChart though…unless they consent to hacking.)
We live in a time where it is even more important to consider your community.
Another unexpected consequence of Covid dating: Gina had to tell her parents that she was going to be “seeing” someone. For sex reasons.
Covid-19: Forcing us to tell our parents we’re having casual sex with a person we aren’t married to! The fun just keeps on coming.
Thank You For Listening!
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